While Fitting In focuses on supporting adults, we also recognise that many of our clients are parents navigating the complex world of SEND support for their children. We reached out to one of our team, Emma, for her insight. As a parent of two neurodivergent children, she understands first-hand how overwhelming it can feel to get the right support in place.
"When my children were younger, finding clear information to help me make decisions about their education felt almost impossible. Ten years on, both now have an Educational Health Care Plan (EHCP) and are in the right provisions for their needs — but it wasn't a straightforward journey."
Below, Emma shares the steps she took and the support that helped her along the way.
1 Speak with the School SENDCo
Every school has a Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENDCo). They are responsible for identifying, assessing, and coordinating support for pupils with additional needs.
Emma arranged a meeting with the SENDCo and class teacher to discuss her concerns. This is your opportunity to ask:
- What support can the school put in place now
- What the assessment process looks like
- What evidence the school needs to gather
Regular communication was key. Once the school had collected the necessary evidence, they submitted it to the Local Authority, which led to her children receiving EHCPs.
2 Review the Provision and Seek Independent Support
Once the EHCP was agreed, Emma reviewed whether the current school could meet her children's needs. It became clear that their provision wasn't suitable.
At this stage she contacted SENDIASS — a free, impartial service offering information, advice, and support for parents and carers of children and young people aged 0–25 with SEND. They guided her through the process of applying for a specialist provision and supported her in securing a place that could meet her children's needs.
Useful resource: SENDIASS provides free, independent support for families navigating the SEND system. Visit sendiass.org to find your local service.
3 Connect with Other Parents and Look After Yourself
Emma joined several online groups on Facebook and X, which gave her space to talk to other parents going through similar experiences. These conversations helped her feel less alone and supported her mental health.
She also emphasises the importance of self‑care — even small moments like a walk, a coffee with a friend, or time in the garden. Caring for yourself makes it easier to advocate for your child.
"You cannot pour from an empty cup. Looking after yourself isn't selfish — it's essential."
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